Entitlement is essentially referring to the belief that you are owed something. Unfortunately this belief is pervasive in modern society; I see so many people who become latched on to a certain thing, convinced that they deserve it or are owed it and whilst they cling to this belief, becoming ever more bitter and frustrated, people pass them by on the road to success.
Successful people understand one fact very clearly. That is nobody is owed anything, nothing comes for free. For many this fact might sound depressing, we’d all love to be live in a world that was fair, unfortunately that isn’t the reality. Successful people embrace this fact, it becomes their great challenge, navigating the uncertainty and knowing that they have the mental resilience to adapt to whatever is thrown at them, turning adversity into opportunity.
At this point it is important to clarify that there is a difference between visualising success and feeling entitled to it. Believing you can succeed and imagining how that will look and feel is an important part of the process of success. Feeling that you’ve worked hard and you therefore deserve success is not.
Whilst the thought pattern of entitlement may be damaging it is, thankfully, easy to fix. All it requires is awareness – as soon as you feel yourself becoming frustrated or angry at the fact that you feel you deserve something pause and take a step back. Get perspective on the situation and remind yourself that nothing comes for free, life isn’t fair, yet that is ok. You have the fortitude to withstand any situation and the fire to make the best of it. Great struggles make great people so learn to love the situations where you don’t get what you feel you deserve, they make you stronger, they force you to grow and, most importantly, they make you work for something beyond material gain - they help you love the process and that is a huge step in developing yourself.
When you start practicing this perception you will soon start spotting those that are clinging firmly to the belief of entitlement. They all start looking like the screaming toddler in the supermarket, demanding sweets because they’ve been good. No one likes crying toddlers so use this as a reminder not to slip back into being one!