We can define scarcity as the feeling of not having enough and it is incredibly pervasive in our current culture. We are surrounded by adverts for items we don't have, figures that we don't look like and experiences that we haven't emulated. This all reinforces the sense that we aren't enough and that isn't a pleasant sense to have to live with.
Consider how this plays out for you day to day. When you wake is your first thought 'I didn't get enough sleep', before quickly becoming 'I don't have enough time'. These thoughts seem automatic and are left unchallenged leaving us with a feeling of being inadequate and having lost before even starting our day. The scarcity self talk continues from there. Sound familiar?
When we look at scarcity in more detail we find that it consists of 3 components:
- Shame: The internalising of faulty actions into being a faulty person.
- Comparison: Seeing what others have vs what we don't have.
- Disengagement: Feeling as if no one is listening or paying attention anyway.
So how can we break out of Scarcity? How can we beat these 3 elements? The good news is that there are a couple of simple daily practices that can break you out of the rut of 'I am not enough'. The first is gratitude - start each day by writing down 3 things that you are grateful for in your life. Big or small, it doesn't matter, connect with the good in your life. The second is celebration - finish each day by writing down 3 wins for the day. Again these can be big or little, what are 3 things you are happy for from the day?
Whilst these practices may seem fairly slight in comparison to the size of the issue we are trying to shift the key to their success is in their consistency rather than their intensity. See it like brushing your teeth, you don't get sparkly teeth by brushing them really hard once for hours, rather this is achieved by small, repeated, daily efforts. As is the case with shifting a mindset, simple daily practices are the solution. So get started and pay attention to yourself talk, see if it starts to shift. See if you start to feel like you are enough.